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"Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated."

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I'll be fucking waiting.: “Let me tell you some things. I used to investigate child abuse and...

feminisminapapercup:

“Let me tell you some things. I used to investigate child abuse and neglect. I can tell you how to stop the vast majority of abortion in the world. First, make knowledge and access to contraception widely available. Start teaching kids before they hit puberty. Teach them about domestic violence and coercion, and teach them not to coerce and rape. Create a strong, loving community where women and girls feel safe and supported in times of need. Because guess what? They aren’t. You know what happens to babies born under such circumstances? They get hurt, unnecessarily. They get sick, unnecessarily. They get removed from parents who love them but who are unprepared for the burden of a child. Resources? Honey, we try. There aren’t enough resources anywhere. There are waiting lists, and promises, and maybes. If the government itself can’t hook people up, what makes you think an impoverished single mom can handle it? Abolish poverty. Do you have any idea how much childcare costs? Daycare can cost as much or more than monthly rent. They may be inadequately staffed. Getting a private nanny is a nice idea, but they don’t come cheap either. Relatives? Do they own a car? Does the bus run at the right times? Do they have jobs of their own they need to work just to keep the lights on? Are they going to stick around until you get off you convenience store shift at 4 AM? Do they have criminal histories that will make them unsuitable as caregivers when CPS pokes around? You gonna pay for that? Who’s going to pay for that? End rape. I know your type errs on the side of blaming the woman, but I’ve seen little girls who’ve barely gotten their periods pregnant because somebody thought raping preteens was an awesome idea. You want to put a child through that? Or someone with a mental or physical inability for whom pregnancy would be frightening, painful or even life-threatening? I’ve seen nonverbal kids who had their feet sliced up by caregivers for no fucking reason at all, you think sexual abuse doesn’t happen either? You say there’s lots of couples who want to adopt. Kiddo, what they want to adopt are healthy white babies, preferably untainted by the wombs and genetics of women with alcohol or drug dependencies. I’ve seen the kids they don’t want, who almost no one wants. You people focus only on the happy pink babies, the gigglers, the ones who grow and grow with no trouble. Those are not the kids who linger in foster care. Those are certainly not the older kids and teenagers who age out of foster care and then are thrown out in the streets, usually with an array of medical and mental health issues. Are they too old to count? And yeah, I’ve seen the babies, little hand-sized things barely clinging to life. There’s no glory, no wonder there. There is no wonder in a pregnant woman with five dollars to her name, so deep in depression you wonder if she’ll be alive in a week. Therapy costs money. Medicine costs money. Food, clothes, electricity cost money. Government assistance is a pittance; poverty drives women and girls into situations where they are forced to rely on people who abuse them to survive. (I’ve been up in more hospitals than I can count.) In each and every dark pit of desperation, I have never seen a pro-lifer. I ain’t never seen them babysitting, scrubbing floors, bringing over goods, handing mom $50 bucks a month or driving her to the pediatrician. I ain’t never seen them sitting up for hours with an autistic child who screams and rages so his mother can get some sleep while she rests up from working 14-hour days. I don’t see them fixing leaks in rundown houses or playing with a kid while the police prepare to interview her about her sexual abuse. They’re not paying for the funerals of babies and children who died after birth, when they truly do become independent organisms. And the crazy thing is they think they’ve already done their job, because the child was born! Aphids give birth, girl. It’s no miracle. You want to speak for the weak? Get off your high horse and get your hands dirty helping the poor, the isolated, the ill and mentally ill women and mothers and their children who already breathe the dirty air. You are doing nothing, absolutely nothing, for children. You don’t have a flea’s comprehension of injustice. You are not doing shit for life until you get in there and fight that darkness. Until you understand that abortion is salvation in a world like ours. Does that sound too hard? Do you really think suffering post-birth is more permissible, less worthy of outrage? “Pro-life” is simply a philosophy in which the only life worth saving is the one that can be saved by punishing a woman.”
Source!: http://desliz.tumblr.com/post/8944082875

Holy shit, this blew my mind. To say it so simply. Bluntly. It’s powerful.  And this is why I am pro-choice. 

So powerful.

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sexistappeal:

[image: text written as in a primary school notebook, “consent in the sheets” and “dissent in the streets.”]

sexistappeal:

[image: text written as in a primary school notebook, “consent in the sheets” and “dissent in the streets.”]

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  • Question: <p>What do you think the most progressive piece of legislation (gender wise) ever passed in any country is?</p> - Anonymous
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    fuckyeahgenderstudies:

    I have no idea.

    Come on. You expect me to know the entire history of gender-based leglisation for the whole world?! The whole planet. That’s a tall order that i can’t fulfil and have never pretended to.

    It’s genuinely impossible to answer this. My gut instinct would be “the very first”, but how do we really ascertain that. 1969 Civil Rights Act (US) was groundbreaking, but the amendment was a political ploy that failed spectacularly. Hmmmm!

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Fuck Yeah, Gender Studies!: Books books books books, etc.

fuckyeahgenderstudies:

All right!

I’ve been saying for almost 18 months that i was going to make a list of books, etc. that you may find illuminating or interesting in a variety of ways on a number of topics/themes across the overall scope of this blog.
I’m going to post it as a blog post (as you can see), but i’m…

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Voting reset! Please help GayWrites win a scholarship!

gaywrites:

Hi friends,

A few days ago I posted about a blogging scholarship for which I was a finalist. I was doing really well in the first few days but soon fell behind. It seems some of the contestants had been cheating and ballot-stuffing - this was apparent because their blogs had more votes than unique visits. 

As a result, the votes have been reset and a new voting system is in place. ALL PREVIOUS VOTES HAVE BEEN ERASED. This means if you already voted for me, it’s gone. We’re back to zero. 

Please, please, please vote for Camille Beredjick here. This scholarship would mean the world to me. As you know, this blog is my life. I do it all by myself, I reach more than 15,000 of you and I usually update five times a day. I love GayWrites so, so much and this could be a great help in its visibility - both for me and for the LGBTQ community. Please help me out.

You can vote once a day until November 30. I’ll post more reminders till then. Thank you all SO much. I love you all dearly. 

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High school coach resigns over sexist, anti-gay survey, will retain job as guidance counselor

projectqueer:

(TRIGGER WARNING: sexism, heterosexism, anti-gay slurs, bullying)

A high school football coach in Buffalo, Wy., has resigned after distributing a mock survey entitled the “Hurt Feelings Report,” in which responses for players to check off included, “I am a pussy,” “I am a queer,” and “I am a little bitch.”

Pat Lynch

Pat Lynch, who had been head football coach at Buffalo High School for 13 years and had led the team to two state football championships, resigned from that position earlier this week, but the school board has allowed him to retain his position as a guidance counselor at the high school under administrative supervision, reported the Casper Star-Tribune.

In the aftermath, Johnson County School District 1 superintendent Dr. Rod Kessler was supportive of Lynch and the efforts to repair his reputation.

“[Lynch] screwed up, he screwed up big time,” Kessler said.

“The coaching, we didn’t want that to be the issue anymore. We wanted him to have his priority back where it was as a counselor.

Click the link above to read the full article.

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